Comments on: Bravery? http://pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/bravery/ pursuing holiness, following politics Tue, 16 Mar 2010 00:55:44 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Why are churches losing their young people? » Pursuing Holiness http://pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/bravery/comment-page-1/#comment-41441 Why are churches losing their young people? » Pursuing Holiness Wed, 02 Jan 2008 20:37:15 +0000 http://www.pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/14/bravery/#comment-41441 [...] as that of non-Christians. There are consequences to having that many broken homes. When parents service their own emotional needs at the expense of keeping their commitments, we should not be surprised when children do what feels [...] [...] as that of non-Christians. There are consequences to having that many broken homes. When parents service their own emotional needs at the expense of keeping their commitments, we should not be surprised when children do what feels [...]

]]> By: Laura http://pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/bravery/comment-page-1/#comment-1704 Laura Sat, 24 Jun 2006 18:20:27 +0000 http://www.pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/14/bravery/#comment-1704 Also, I really enjoyed doing this 3 part study on Forgiveness. It has links to resources from people a lot more Godly and smart than I am, and is really just my notes as I tried to work some things out. It may point you and your husband to some good information. The John Piper sermon is outstanding. <a href="http://www.pursuingholiness.com/?p=83" rel="nofollow">Forgiveness and Acceptance</a> Also, I really enjoyed doing this 3 part study on Forgiveness. It has links to resources from people a lot more Godly and smart than I am, and is really just my notes as I tried to work some things out. It may point you and your husband to some good information. The John Piper sermon is outstanding.

Forgiveness and Acceptance

]]> By: Laura http://pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/bravery/comment-page-1/#comment-1703 Laura Sat, 24 Jun 2006 18:07:33 +0000 http://www.pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/14/bravery/#comment-1703 Dee, I hope you guys are in a good church and getting support and counseling from your pastor. If you're not, try to find a good church ASAP. I attend a <a href="http://www.sovereigngrace.com/" rel="nofollow">Sovereign Grace</a> church (it's reformed charismatic) and heartily recommend it. Also, this Carolyn Mahaney book is excellent: <a href="http://www.sovereigngracestore.com/ProductInfo.aspx?productid=B3030-00-11" rel="nofollow">Feminine Appeal</a>. I'll be praying for you.... please let me know if I can pray for anything specific or if I can help in some other way. laura@pursuingholiness.com Dee, I hope you guys are in a good church and getting support and counseling from your pastor. If you’re not, try to find a good church ASAP. I attend a Sovereign Grace church (it’s reformed charismatic) and heartily recommend it. Also, this Carolyn Mahaney book is excellent: Feminine Appeal.

I’ll be praying for you…. please let me know if I can pray for anything specific or if I can help in some other way.
laura@pursuingholiness.com

]]> By: Dee http://pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/bravery/comment-page-1/#comment-1702 Dee Sat, 24 Jun 2006 17:48:44 +0000 http://www.pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/14/bravery/#comment-1702 I believe this with all my heart, but unfortunately my husband is unforgiving and bitter. We are both Christians, and I have let him down again and again - spending too much - lying about the money - and when I got a grasp on that - finding emotional attachment through letters to another - someone I only met one time. My husband is bitter. This letter writing campaign took place 4 years ago. It is over. Although he has only mentioned divorce a few times, it is always in light of "we would both be happier." I daily experience contempt from my husband. I am praying, changing, and begging God to do a miracle, but life is hard and not very happy. I will be sticking it our to the end..as long as he will. I believe this with all my heart, but unfortunately my husband is unforgiving and bitter. We are both Christians, and I have let him down again and again – spending too much – lying about the money – and when I got a grasp on that – finding emotional attachment through letters to another – someone I only met one time. My husband is bitter. This letter writing campaign took place 4 years ago. It is over. Although he has only mentioned divorce a few times, it is always in light of “we would both be happier.” I daily experience contempt from my husband. I am praying, changing, and begging God to do a miracle, but life is hard and not very happy. I will be sticking it our to the end..as long as he will.

]]> By: Laura http://pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/bravery/comment-page-1/#comment-357 Laura Wed, 22 Mar 2006 20:09:29 +0000 http://www.pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/14/bravery/#comment-357 42 years! That's wonderful! Congratulations! 42 years! That’s wonderful! Congratulations!

]]> By: Barbara http://pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/bravery/comment-page-1/#comment-356 Barbara Wed, 22 Mar 2006 20:06:27 +0000 http://www.pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/14/bravery/#comment-356 You are right; it doesn't take strength to get out of a marriage - only courage to stay in! No wonder we don't have many people reaching milestones of 10, 25, 50 years of happy marriages - nobody is willing to forgive or forget. They go into marriage with the attitude, if it doesn't work out for ME, then I'll divorce him/her. Marriage is a two-way street - it takes both partners in the playing field, to be willing to sacrifice a little of self in order to live a happy life. Thank goodness I married such a man. We will celebrate 42 years of wedded bliss this July! You are right; it doesn’t take strength to get out of a marriage – only courage to stay in! No wonder we don’t have many people reaching milestones of 10, 25, 50 years of happy marriages – nobody is willing to forgive or forget. They go into marriage with the attitude, if it doesn’t work out for ME, then I’ll divorce him/her.

Marriage is a two-way street – it takes both partners in the playing field, to be willing to sacrifice a little of self in order to live a happy life. Thank goodness I married such a man. We will celebrate 42 years of wedded bliss this July!

]]> By: Pursuing Holiness » Blog Archive » Forgiveness for Divorce http://pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/bravery/comment-page-1/#comment-354 Pursuing Holiness » Blog Archive » Forgiveness for Divorce Wed, 22 Mar 2006 18:52:24 +0000 http://www.pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/14/bravery/#comment-354 [...] Bravery? [...] [...] Bravery? [...]

]]> By: Matt http://pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/bravery/comment-page-1/#comment-347 Matt Sun, 19 Mar 2006 23:17:38 +0000 http://www.pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/14/bravery/#comment-347 Amen sister Amen sister

]]> By: Laura http://pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/bravery/comment-page-1/#comment-346 Laura Sun, 19 Mar 2006 21:15:26 +0000 http://www.pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/14/bravery/#comment-346 I agree, it IS frustrating... I don't blame anyone for getting a divorce where abuse and adultery are concerned. But the whole concept of "unreconcilable differences" or "we just don't love each other any more" just makes me mad. The Man Of The House and I have had our rough patches but we stuck it out and I'm grateful every day that we did because we now have a fabulous, happy, Godly, marriage. I'm blessed every single day I have with him. I tell friends who consider divorce, WAIT. Just wait a while. People are more interested in what feels good than what IS good. I tell my daughter, do what's right and you'll feel good about it and yourself. That's the order things need to occur in - good feelings follow good actions. So far, so good - she's a really great teenager. If she ever marries I pray that she keeps to that ethic. I agree, it IS frustrating… I don’t blame anyone for getting a divorce where abuse and adultery are concerned. But the whole concept of “unreconcilable differences” or “we just don’t love each other any more” just makes me mad.

The Man Of The House and I have had our rough patches but we stuck it out and I’m grateful every day that we did because we now have a fabulous, happy, Godly, marriage. I’m blessed every single day I have with him. I tell friends who consider divorce, WAIT. Just wait a while.

People are more interested in what feels good than what IS good. I tell my daughter, do what’s right and you’ll feel good about it and yourself. That’s the order things need to occur in – good feelings follow good actions. So far, so good – she’s a really great teenager. If she ever marries I pray that she keeps to that ethic.

]]> By: matt http://pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/bravery/comment-page-1/#comment-345 matt Sun, 19 Mar 2006 20:58:54 +0000 http://www.pursuingholiness.com/2006/03/14/bravery/#comment-345 Great post. I am tired of seeing so many divorces within the "Christian" community. It is absurd. It is just part of this culture that has lost the meaning of marriage and the vows behind it. Marriage has become dating it seems - if it "isn't working" I can just end it. Silly. A guy named <a href="http://www.garythomas.com/" rel="nofollow">Gary Thomas</a> wrote a book called <a href="http://www.christianbook.com/Christian/Books/product?item_no=42827&netp_id=271679&event=ESRCN&item_code=WW" rel="nofollow">Sacred Marriage</a> that takes a wonderful look at marriage. Very well worth the read. Of course, I am saying all this as someone who is single! ;) Cheers Matt Great post. I am tired of seeing so many divorces within the “Christian” community. It is absurd. It is just part of this culture that has lost the meaning of marriage and the vows behind it. Marriage has become dating it seems – if it “isn’t working” I can just end it. Silly.

A guy named Gary Thomas wrote a book called Sacred Marriage that takes a wonderful look at marriage. Very well worth the read.

Of course, I am saying all this as someone who is single! ;)

Cheers
Matt

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